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Prioritise self-care as your lifeline amidst challenges. Just like a life vest on a sinking ship, self-care safeguards your emotional, psychological and physical well-being. Nurturing your mental health is pivotal for the journey ahead, fostering a healthy mindset to connect with your child. You've got this!
Maintain emotionally balanced communication with your child, avoiding laden expressions. This means steering clear of expressions that are heavily laden with emotions, ensuring a more objective and constructive interaction for the well-being of both parties involved.
Recognise their emotional strain and exercise patience, remaining composed. Appreciate any communication "crumbs" they offer.
Refuse to disparage the other parent or family members; children in loyalty conflicts are protective of the aligned parent.
In loyalty conflicts, alienated children may struggle with critical thinking. Avoid inducing guilt or discussing your feelings, as this may exacerbate the situation.
On social media, create an inviting atmosphere for your child. Consider leaving a public image together as a precious reminder for them to discover, understanding that curiosity may lead to blocking and unblocking.
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Remember your behaviour, including your words spoken and written, which includes your texts, emails, Facebook and so on, can be used against you by the other parent and submitted as evidence in court. Always speak calmly, speak assertively and never lose your temper.
The ongoing conflict has a significant impact on children, parents and extended family. When a child sees or hears a parent harmed verbally, emotionally or physically, it is similar to children being hurt themselves.
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The anguish of losing a child is profound. Alienated parents navigate intricate grief for a child still alive, compounded by denigration and vilification in the alienation process. Feelings of despair, helplessness, frustration, anger and confusion are common.
Navigating legal and mental health systems unfamiliar with parental alienation often incurs substantial financial and emotional costs for alienated parents.
Prioritise daily self-care. Regular check-ups, including blood tests, are essential for monitoring overall well-being as stress can significantly impact the body.
Seek additional support through a mental health plan, obtaining a referral to a psychologist for tools and assistance in coping with your situation.
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Navigating the challenges of parental alienation, emotional self-care becomes a critical aspect of maintaining well-being. Understanding that emotional self-care is subjective, the key lies in staying attuned to oneself. Reflect on moments of happiness and health and pose these questions:
Reflect on the people who bring comfort and support, whether individuals or groups. Delve into the environments where you feel most at ease and grounded, be it outdoors or at a friend's house.
Facing the challenges of parental alienation, maintaining good physical health becomes a valuable support. Reflecting on times of physical well-being, consider the following questions:
Prioritising physical health, including sleep, nutrition, exercise and routines, can contribute significantly to resilience and coping during the challenging experience of parental alienation.
Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for your well-being. This process entails not only recognising and prioritising your own likes, needs, wants, and limits but also delving inward to understand your emotions. Subsequently, it involves the vital step of clearly and calmly communicating these feelings with the other involved parties.
Maintaining honesty with yourself and engaging openly with professionals is essential, particularly in the context of high-conflict separations. In such cases, it's common for both parties to have played a role in the current situation, albeit on different scales. Accepting responsibility for any past unhelpful behaviour is a pivotal aspect of personal growth and resolution.
Importantly, children caught in the crossfire are more likely to gravitate toward a parent who exhibits remorse and humility. This contrasts with a parent who denies their own unhelpful choices, displays arrogance or adopts a defensive stance. Demonstrating genuine accountability fosters a connection that can contribute positively to the overall well-being of both the alienated parent and the children involved.
Alienated children often exhibit unfounded disdain for the alienated parent, coupled with a sense of entitlement towards the alienating parent. They are indoctrinated to perceive the alienating parent as "all-wonderful" and the targeted parent as "all-bad." Consequently, these children undergo disrupted social-emotional development due to the effects of parental alienation.
Parental alienation inflicts emotional distress on children, who grapple with complex grief over the loss of a living parent. The manipulation-driven loss results in psychological challenges and trauma-related difficulties for alienated children.
The enduring impact of parental alienation on children encompasses social isolation, a fragile sense of self, and manifestations of anger, depression and anxiety. Acknowledging and addressing these consequences is crucial for their well-being.
Ask yourself these questions: Am I constructive with my time and energy today? Am I helping my situation with my actions? If my child was to look in on my life, would they be attracted to who I am?
Sometimes thoughts can carry you away or bring you down when you are grieving for your child or children. It is normal to grieve in these circumstances. Still, if you are not bouncing back, it is vital to get additional support through a support group or make an appointment to see a psychologist or counsellor.
When you feel down, try to push yourself to go for a walk, turn on some upbeat music, go and catch up with uplifting friends, or try a change of scenery.
The best thing to do is move into self-care mode. Don't feel guilty for taking time out for yourself. Your children need you to look after yourself, so you're equipped to handle the situation better.
Quality sleep is integral to our overall well-being, contributing to feelings of wellness, focus and happiness. Research suggests that adults should aim for 7-9 hours of sleep per night, as sleep deprivation can adversely impact mood, concentration, gastrointestinal function and cognitive abilities.
To cultivate a healthy sleep routine:
Reach Out for Support:
You are not alone. Support is available. Explore the provided links. Many parents share similar experiences, and reunions happen regularly. Take proactive steps to prioritise your well-being, ensuring a healthy mindset for potential reunification.
Call Triple Zero (000) only in life threatening emergencies. When you call:
Stay focused, stay relevant, stay on the line
24 hour
Lifeline. Crisis Support. Suicide Prevention.
24 hour
1800RESPECT is the national domestic, family and sexual violence counselling, information and support service.
Call 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732 or chat via their website.
24 hour
Support - Advice - Action
BeyondBlue provides information and support to help everyone in Australia achieve their best possible mental health, whatever their age and wherever they live.
8am to 8pm: Mon-Fri (AEST)
Telephone support
Online forums
Support groups
24 Hour
MensLine Australia is a telephone and online counselling service for men with family and relationship concerns.
Services and Resources
An extensive list of phone number and resources for men from One in Three.
24 hour
Interrelate specialise in supporting parents and children, and strengthening family relationships.
3pm to Midnight Every Day
Free LGBTI peer support.
Telephone support
Webchat
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Parents and carers have skills, strengths and supports they use to help children thrive. But, if you experience mental health difficulties it can sometimes be challenging to draw on these capabilities. Australian research has found that up to one in four children are being raised by a parent with mental illness. The resources in this section are designed to provide practical strategies and support for parents, carers and families and most importantly, help build strong relationships, resilience and a solid foundation of support in which families can grow.
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Parental Alienating Behaviours
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This serious form of abuse and family violence can no longer be ignored. Parental alienating behaviours must be acknowledged in Australia as it is in other parts of the world. We need legislation that not only acknowledges its existence but firmly and clearly legislates against it.